Dad as superhero

  What do you think it means to be a dad? What was your dad‘s influence on your life? If you didn’t have a positive experience where would you go to learn how to give that positive experience? Have you ever stopped to think that maybe the best thing you can do for your child or children is just be there? Truth of the matter is that’s all you have to do! We can invest a lot of time, energy, and even money into growing and nurturing our understanding of what it takes to be a dad. To some it is moving mountains, and maybe your integrity suggest to you that you have to provide the best possible jumping off point, or maybe you didn’t have that experience with your dad so you’re lost and need some help… The first thing you should do is figure out a way to combine the things that you like to do into age-appropriate activities you could then do with your children. Depending on the age of your child or children you can adjust just about any activity to suit any age. One of the most important things to do is to simply observe. By watching your child you can get a sense of what they’re into, by guiding your child you can give them a better sense of what the world has to offer and try and find ways to explore those possibilities and maybe take what’s interesting to you and try and frame it so that it’s interesting to them. But don’t get discouraged, if you can’t find a way to make your child interested in the things that you like take this time instead to allow yourself to go into your child’s world and see what makes them light up, and be that thing!!! There are so many ideas to be had in the mind of a child that is looking at everything with absolute wonder, and that way you can be your child’s coloring book because you have life experience, know-how, and the ingenuity to make those thoughts become things. The deeper meaning that runs throughout all of this is that you’re developing a relationship with your child that will far exceed your expectations if you’re willing to put in the time.  The reward for this is not only having a lifelong friend but also having the peace of mind of knowing you took a running start raising your child to know the difference between right and wrong, good and bad, goalsetting, and most importantly what a real bond is. Your daughter will use this later in life to try and find who she spends her life with, your son will use this later in life when trying to figure out who he is and where he needs to be. The amazing part of this is that it doesn’t cost anything, teaches you lessons that are priceless, and will reward you in ways you are only able to experience and not exactly figure out how to put words to. Time is the only investment needed here, time isn’t always as simple as it sounds or free as it seems. We live in a very busy world with information and breaking news that sometimes it’s hard to stay in the moment when our devices play for our attention or give us an alternative means of entertaining our children. This is a pretty simple trip to fall into, as I’ve done it myself. One of the downsides of access to infinite amounts of knowledge to a young mind that is starving for information is that your child ends up being hyper intelligent and aware for their age, this makes school challenging for them and boring… And they seem to grow up a little faster mentally as well. There are many pitfalls when we allow technology to run wild with our child’s imagination. I think it’s safe to say that if you give yourself a half an hour to an hour of time per day to solely concentrate on your children it will get easier to achieve. This can be as simple as parallel play, or as involved as you make it depending on the age of your child. But it begins with time, and how much time you’re willing to give in order for the return on your investment to be the gift you give back to your community in the form of your children becoming the well-rounded people you want them to be. All you have to do is show up with an open mind and some free time… How amazing it is to just be, don’t you think it’s about time?